In my women’s coaching circle, one of the women was sharing about a work situation and expressed that she “needs to work on being more confident.” She believed that she would be more respected in her company if she communicated like the other employees who she perceives as being more confident.
Can you relate? Are there situations in your life where you wish you felt more confident?
We have all had moments of mild to extreme self-consciousness where the feeling of confidence seems about as far away as Jupiter. Those awkward moments or instances where we feel judged by others often make us believe that we need to “work on” becoming more confident.
How have you “worked on” being more confident? Perhaps by taking public speaking classes? Rehearsing things you want to say in front a mirror? Getting a coach? Buying a new outfit?
While all those things are wonderful forms of self-support, feeling more confident actually takes way less effort. I explain in more detail in my blog below, but here is the bottom line: the only reason that you do not feel confident is because you are judging yourself. Period. Really.